The short stories "Girl"by Jamaica Kincaid and "Everyday Use" by Alice Walker are both written from a mother's point of view and define the role of the woman by focusing on the mother-daughter relationship.
Both short stories show a negative depiction of the mother-daughter relationship. Even though both are written with the mother as the narrator, "Girl" is a mother's critical view of her daughter while "Everyday Use" is a daughter's critical view of her mother. The narrator in "Girl" looks down on her daughter by making remarks like, "to prevent yourself from looking like the slut I know you are so bent on becoming" (350). The word slut obviously has a negative connotation and is never a good thing. The narrator is unsatisfied with her daughter and makes what seems to be an assumption since it is not objected by the daughter herself. It is apparent in this story that the way everyone views a woman is important. The narrator covers everything from how to dress to how to smile to each person. In "Everyday Use", the narrator begins by describing her daughter Dee. She gives us an image of Dee succeeding and starring on television. She starts off by saying, "In real life, I am a large, big boned woman with rough, man-working hands" (327). To describe how Dee looks down on her mother, the narrator gives us a contrasting image of what Dee would want it to be like if her and her mother were to be on television. She says, "But of course all this does not show on television. I am the way my daughter would want me to be: a hundred pounds lighter, my skin like an uncooked barley" (327). This shows that Dee's mother is not up to her standards. For the narrator of "Everyday Use", appearance means little to nothing. Her daughter feels differently since she looks down on her mother's appearance and where she comes from.
"Girl" and "Everyday Use" also focus on a woman's work to run a household. The narrator of "Everyday Use" works in a different way than what is usually thought of when running a household. Some of the chores the narrator in "Everyday Use" performs are depicted by saying, "I can kill and clean a hog as mercilessly as a man" (327). Or, "I can work outside all day, breaking ice to get water for washing" (327). The narrator of "Girl" speaks of work in a much different way, "Wash the white clothes on Monday and put them on the stone heap; was the color clothes on Tuesday and put them on the clothes-line to dry" (350). From what I could tell, the narrator in "Everyday Use" behaves in a way that tells me there is not a man in the household because of this, the narrator's role is to be both the man and the woman of the household. "Girl" does mention a father being present so this may explain the absence of dirty work that was present in "Everyday Use". Both stories only talk of the woman's role and never compare or contrast it with that of a man's. However we know that killing and cleaning hogs is a man's job by the way the narrator of "Everyday Use" words the sentence.
"Girl" and "Everyday Use"show the roles of the women. Both narrators have the responsibility of running a household and raising daughters. These ladies have a lot on their plate and even though the mother-daughter relationship is strained, they make it work.
Nice job, I feel like we discussed a lot of the same points in our posts. One thing that really struck me about your post is when you said,"From what I could tell, the narrator in 'Everyday Use' behaves in a way that tells me there is not a man in the household because of this, the narrator's role is to be both the man and the woman of the household." I've never been part of a mother-daughter relationship, but I feel like this could be one of the reasons why Dee is so critical towards her mother. The woman that the narrator describes on T.V. sounds like a tradition mother role, one who has a man around to do 'men's work'(not in a sexist way, just traditional gender roles). Maybe since the narrator plays the roles of both mother and father, Dee has a harder time of accepting her role as mother.
ReplyDeleteI agree Michael. Dee's mother wears overalls, flannel nightgowns, and in the end of the short story has snuff. Definitely not the typical image of a woman. I think that's what motivates Dee to do the things she does. Maybe she dresses in loud clothing and a lot of jewelry for safe measure to make it absolutely apparent that she is feminine and unlike her mother. It makes me wonder where the father is or what her views are of men as a whole. Is she a feminist or does she rely on men to dote on her...is the question I asked myself after your comment. Thanks, Michael.
DeleteI completely agree with the statement you made about both short stories show a negative depiction of the mother-daughter relationship. but instead of critical i think that both mothers in the story are old fashion and do not understand todays youth and both daughters are rebelling against their mothers wishes! did you guys get that sense too?
ReplyDeleteI didn't think about it that way when I was reading, but now that you mention it I can see elements of rebellious daughter and old fashion mother in both of the stories. But even so I still think the mother's old fashioned-ness in "Girl" is a bit critical and Dee's rebelliousness in "Everyday Use" is critical.
DeleteI definitely agree with josh! I believe we are all being a bit tough on the daughters here. No mother should call their daughter a slut (even if she is one) but on the other hand moms need to evolve with the times. I wouldn't really say both of the daughters are rebelling but they are just up to date witht he current culture?
DeleteThis is an interesting discussion! I like that you are cutting the mother in "Girl" a little bit of slack. It's good to try to approach all the different perspectives in a story.
DeleteThat said, I notice everyone mentioning things like "today's youth" and "current culture." When was this story published? And where? Is this about a mother/daughter relationship in America? Or could this be about somewhere else? (And what would be our clues to find out?)
Does the time period and the place matter? What do you all think?
Ms. Grover, i do believe the time and place matter to an extent, but even though the image women portray has evolved it still uses the same concepts. Sure in today's society most women or models in magazines are wearing little clothing or as some may see it as "slutty" the image they are portraying is the beauty of the women or even new styles of clothes, which the trends are always changing and most people try and keep up with the styles. If this story is " todays youth" the mother may not be adapting to the times and styles that are upon us, which many people were not brought up that way and cannot cope. But its is hard not knowing what time this story was published, to know what really was the case since the narrator does not give us a better picture of the clothes she was wearing.
DeleteAlso to continue on what you said Taylor just when the story was published doesn't mean the story has to be in that time period. While the stories were written in the 1970's and 80's I think they are looking back at their childhood more than anything. I don't think the time period when they stories were written has much to do with the theme of the stories in that the mother is kind of taking care of the house and she has to be harsh on her daughter to get the things done that need to be done.
DeleteJosh, I never really thought about it like that. It's interesting to think about the daughter's rebelling. I definitely see that now that you've brought it up...especially in "Everyday Use". Dee seems to rebel by changing her name, creating her own style while she's growing up, and desiring the finer things in life. When I read it, I took Dee as more of an ungrateful daughter that forgot where she came from. I wish the reader could have gotten a better sense of the daughter in "Girl". I wish I knew her opinion instead of the couple of timid remarks she makes. I think that's why I read it as the narrator being a critical mother from the beginning. Maybe if the author would've included what classified as slutty clothes or behavior we could have seen how much the daughter was truly rebelling. Great thought Josh!
ReplyDeleteI agree with both of you Josh and Magan. I believe Dee was very ungrateful of everything her mother did for her. I also believe she was selfish and not very sisterly towards Maggie. Dee says statements that are very hurtful such as "Maggie's brain is like an elephant's"(Walker 332) and "Maggie cant appreciate these quilts"(Walker 333). On the other hand, I believe the mother in "Girl" was way to critical of her daughter. NO parent should ever treat their daughter that way and call her names. Parents need to understand the balance of influencing their children's lives, but at the same time giving them some freedom to make their own choices.
ReplyDeleteI think the short story "Girl" looks closely at the mother daughter relationship but is told from the daughter's point of view and she is sort of reliving all these orders her mother barked down at her. From the little bio on the page before it talks about how Jamaica is a pen name used to not have to worry about her family and so I think this is another time where she is writing critically about her relationship with her mother. While the relationship seems harsh and very demanding I think it's more of a condescending way for the greater good of the family and making sure everything gets done so they can make a living and survive in this world.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you Eugenio, in the short story "Girl" I couldn't imagine my mother saying things like that to me, it has to hurt i mean girls look up to their moms and to be torn down by the person you are supposed to respect and look up too has to be devastating. Your parents are supposed to help you fit in to society and help you to be a better person where as letting you learn from mistakes, not tearing you down which to me seems would make them rebell in a matter of time.
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